Zactly my point. I believe you and I, and a few of the other HDW's on this BB are in somewhat difficult spots. For my H just simply reaching out to me sexually takes, as he'd put it...."two Bills of Rights and an act of Congress." So even when we do have a schedule, he'll show up (sometimes)....but I'm still left to get his engine revved. Once it's revved he's fine, but I'm still left (most of the time) to get it to that point.
I'm still trying to find what works for my H too when it comes to trying to arouse him throughout the day. Too much verbal (pressure).....too much intimate touch (pressure). The only thing I know he consistently likes are certain peices of clothing....but that only works on the weekend....when I see him lol. Still working on that magic combination.
Honeypot....I was watching that same snowstorm last night. Ian just LOOOOOVED playing in it!!! He'd just squeal with delight everytime a snowflake hit his face.