Quote: I can really relate to this and I can really see how having a schedule would help, it would keep you on track not let the Higher-D (but not that high) just decide to forget about it and not tackle the issue.
From a LD perspective, when there is a large discrepancy between spousal drives, it can appear to be a huge chasm that cannot be spanned. I think this is often the foundation underpinning the LD's tendency to act overwhelmed on this issue.
A schedule can take away the fear of "never enough" or "what am I signing up for" that has popped up among several of the couples represented here.
A schedule can take away the burden of intiating from both parties.
A schedule does influence the LD spouse to think about sex more often.
A schedule keeps the issue of sex in the forefront of the relationship. It's damned difficult to work out a sexually issue if you only have sex half a dozen times a year.
A schedule helps eliminate some of the frustration the HD spouse is having to deal with and in doing so can often help grease the relational negative interactions.
