I'm with you on some aspects of self that don't need public viewing. I have many feelings that are fleeting- anger, jealousy, rage, frustration, true evil etc... These are things that I keep to myself unless they keep arising, become a theme, become particularly bothersome. Barraging one's mate with every thought as it arises is NOT intimacy. However, that is a far cry from the description of "honest relatiionship feedback, current feelings etc..." Good stuff, Mrs. Nop.
Karen
PS I appreciate how specific you have been about your expressions of sexuality in your M when addressing Cemar. What is the definition of success? When both people's needs are being met reliably, when both people feel happy, contented, loving most of the time NOT some pie in the sky thing where one's partner becomes exactly who we want them to be. Let's face it we married our spouses for who they are not who we want them to be. There is much room for negotiation, learning and growing within that space without losing who we fundamentally are.
