That would be like telling the LD spouse that ALL communication will now be "scheduled", it will only happen 30 minutes prior to each "scheduled" sex session. I doubt to many LD spouses would find that "fulfilling".
Gosh this LD would be okay with that. If it will be true communication. Let see I have had sex 12 times with my H this month so he owes me 360 minutes of real communication.
To me that is a better trade off then that I have had sex 12 times this month with maybe 10 minutes of fufilling communications. Gosh if we could work this out I would have sex 30 times a month and be allowed 900 minutes of fufilling/true communication. I think that would put me in happy camper land. And in a very fufilled marriage.
Point is CeMar stop acting like the HD is the only one doing without something that matters to them. Most LD people are also doing without something in there marriage that matters.
Lack of sex is not always the problem sometimes it is a symptom.
Mrs Nop is a true example of a LD person who can come out of there comfort zone and meet there H needs. Purely out of love and a appreciation for the fact Mr Nop takes the time to meet her needs. And she does not seem to sit around with a tally sheet on who is doing more for the other.
I understand that you are frustrated with this aspect of your marriage. But darn do you talk to your wife at all. Maybe even trying the sceduled sex if she consents will help you relieve some of the stress of this issue to allow you time to think and work on other issues that right now you may be blind sighted to.
Scheduled sex is not the cure all but it can at least be viewed as a pain killer. And you never no one day you can be having sex and it never cross your mind that today was not scheduled just felt like doing it. Happened for me at least 4 times this month and I am the LD which started this with a scheduled amount of times per month.
