BEing frank is fine. Blunt is fine, too, except I don't understand.

If you care to elaborate...I'm interested. Maybe it's obvious to you, but it isn't to me or I wouldn't have posted.

I'm asking if stopping sex as part of a getting married ultimatum was stupid. (Many books advise it)

I'm saying that the sex got boring. For me, to have to do all the work.

How does that put the problem as me?

After we weren't having sex anymore and our neighbor was coming on to him he wanted to have sex with other women. "noone in particular."