Shamed and Confused how about adding "Growing and Progress" to the thread title?
Chromosphere, just posting to say I am thinking about your situation and wishing you the best.
I see a guy that is making lots of progress and a group of cyber friends (real people) that are very knowledgeable and are giving their all to help you. You are doing great BTW, considering how hard this is for you.
Please take Cobra's advice about ------------ NO MATTER WHAT YOUR FEARS SAY!!! Stop the fantasizing, in both the positive and negative directions. You are being your own worst enemy ------------- I see you making great progress but doing the worst case thinking in your head makes you lose some of the confidence you gain. I am not preaching here, I need to learn that same message.
More than what not to do, I see the quality and quantity of advice and caring very high here. There are some truly talented people and I am so glad they post to your thread.
BTW, I am learning quite a bit from your thread and admire your courage and growth.
I was not going to post for a week because my R is mostly SSDD, but had to say I am rooting for you and your W and children. I like to see families work on the R and at least see how each individual contributed to the problem and for each person to learn and practice R skills, even if it does not make the R perfect.
Interesting talk about : --------------------- He said there was good guilt and bad guilt. The good guilt keeps us from doing wrong, or at least from doing wrong again. The bad guilt is as he stated "worse than useless."……… He pulled me part-way out of my hole by convincing me that this excessive guilt had to go. --------------------- WTG globule. Your C sounds like a gem.
No science questions for now. Reading about your R/M/family progress is more important.
Lou
OG_Lou? or OS_Lou, or NS_Lou. Old School learning New School!
