Okay, so you did a bad thing. You apologized, and now I think you just need to lay low for a while. Let your W digest all of this...this really stinks for her to have to deal with. Don't focus on yourself and on how bad you feel. Let her take the lead for awhile: Don't grab her and kiss her, because she doesn't want that right now. But she will, one day, want it again. You just have to be patient.
Other marriages have survived similar issues. Just look at the Clintons.;)
