I won’t go into a long response here; I just want to tell you to keep your chin up. After my A, W said that even though we would remain married, the R was essentially over. She also made it clear that once our daughter graduated from high school, she (W) would be gone. Since D was only three at the time, I just told her that that meant I still had fifteen years to change her mind. D3 is now D17 and is a senior. Although the sex issues have reappeared in the last five or six months, we still have the best R we’ve ever had and have ML more in the past year and a half than we did in the previous twenty eight years combined.
You’ve done the hard part: you came clean. Now it’s all out there in the open. Now it’s time to prove yourself, to improve yourself, and to get things back on track with your W. Right this minute, I can’t remember if your sitch has always been bad or if you’re one of those who had a good SL in the past, but in any case, your sitch couldn’t have been worse than mine – we didn’t ML even once in the first ten plus years of our marriage. It can be done, and I’m sure a smart guy like you will figure it out. Hang in there, listen to the advice you’re getting here, and go for it. What do you have to lose?
