Chromo said: ------------------------------------------------------- OK. I've had enough of this. Somebody said it to me earlier, spending time thinking about the EA is just "wasted mental energy", energy that I need for repairing my relationship. -------------------------------------------------------
You had an emotional affair because you chose to. It didn't sneak up on you, there were no geo-magnetic forces involved, and some other Chromo in another Kaku string of realities didn't cause you to do it. You decided to cross a line and share secrets with this woman. She is no friend, and what you have done has helped damage her marriage, and yours. Period.
If the affair was recent, I think you should tell your wife about it. For sure, I think you should write this woman a short, to the point, non-emotional, "no contact" letter, simply stating that you are dedicated to your wife and that what you did was wrong and you want no further contact with her under any circumstances.
My last paragraph will draw nay-sayers, but it is what you should consider doing, and there is a long track record of good outcomes supporting the suggestion.
Once the affair is properly dead and dealt with, then I think any additional energies invested in it is a waste of time. One thing is for certain, the affair IS still affecting your marriage. Marriages with more than two participants rarely succeed.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
