Supreme Overlord of the Universe

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"Well that is not the case here. I only have the basic high school knowledge of science. Its not that you could not teach me it is how much you would have to teach me to get me to a level of understanding to relate to the subjects of which you are all speaking."

You know, reading my comment it could have been taken that I was implying that I thought you would be hard to teach. I am very glad that you didn't take it that way, because it wasn't meant to be.

Man I wish I could convey that simple fact that "to understand some things you have to build a foundation" to today's students. I say it till I am blue in the face, but they still just want to jump right into the most difficult problems. Your statement shows good insight. I'll bet you would be REALLY easy to teach.

"I started working 12 hour days and would make pit stops so my almost hour drive home would extend to at least two.
I felt almost panicy about walking in the door."

BTDT, unfortunately.

"Some of the simple things I suggested like changing into more comfortable cloths or shoes or sitting on a comfy bed with my kids where exactly the same things I used to get to the point where my house was not a looming pit of darkness but a bright beacon of joy. (not that it still does not look like a dark hole sometimes thats sucking me in at times, But I no longer just want to run from it upon sight)"

I do like your suggestions. I'll have to think about what are 3 or 4 simple things I can do to make going home preceptibly more comfortable. I know, if when I walk in the door, my wife jumps on me and we have hot sex, then she cooks my favorite meal, has a nice horror movie waiting for me in the DVD player, and tells me every 5 minutes what a big, strong, handsome, sexy, smart guy I am. Seriously, I'll think about it. HP's hug and kiss when I come in the door will be the first.

"If not I toss them out the window and try another approach. I am just not sure if three months is to long or long enough to really see a change. And thought maybe your C had helped you establish valid timelines that you could share"

Sounds like a ... sound plan. I may try it. No the C was very vague, even about when our next appointment would be. I'll have to say though that the first few months of a newborn are kinda hard to work with. As things settle down a bit into more of a routine (like somewhat normal sleeping hours), establishing some more concrete goals will be easier.

"Self help books in general are something I am rapidly losing faith in. You read four chapters of what the purpose of the book is. Another four on what it will teach you then four about what you should have learned. I seemed to find they spend more time telling you what they are gonna say later then actually saying much of anything.
Lets talk about what I am gonna talk about is not much of a help if you never really talk about it in my book.
Sorta like the last two C I went to who just wanted to run in circles instead of giving one suggestion as to how to change anything."

A very good description. The only R book I have read much of was Dr. Phil's Relationship Rescue. And while it does look good in parts. You spend the first 4 or 5 chapters focusing on all the negative aspects of your R. While I understand the basic philosophy (you need to get all the problems out on the table at some point to begin truly healing), you can imagine that my W quickly lost interest in exercises in which you list everything you can't stand about your husband and I list everything I can't stand about her. I'm actually cringing remembering doing that stuff with the W. I'm sure it just added a layer to our problems. Blech (as Karen says).

"Omg I actually forgot about that show! God I am getting old."

Yeah, and I thought it was really stupid back then too.