I wrote a reply to you guys a few days ago but didn't post it 'cos it sounded too whiny.
I'm not really stressed about my responsibiliies. It's fine I like my new job and it's better than being SAHM which I enjoyed but found difficult - not my cup of tea as we English say. No - it's H's reaction (or non-reaction) to it that I can't get on with. He just seems to be acting the same way he was when I was home all day. Like you're at home all day so you should have time to cater to my needs. No matter that he is unclear on his needs that they change day to day that he never lets me know if I do a good job with his needs only if I don't etc etc. And now I am working too I am not allowed to forget his needs (e.g. ironed shirts etc).
what if it's not a matter of having the energy to DO anything else or again...what if it's simply a matter of looking at things differently?
Yes I guess so, things have been a little better just lately. Mainly because of the big row we had where I told him just what I thought of him and how much he had let me down by acting like a big baby after our kids were born. He didn't take it well at first but his attitude has been better since - like he did listen and accept it.
so bit by bit.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
