Midlife for Dummies

[2X Divorcee?]

I've always thought the best/most non-defensive reply is "I never meant to hurt you". Anything defensive is wrong. I have little luck convincing WAW/MLC wife I deserve forgiveness. In her self centeredness, she deserves all the apologies. This reply is not an apology, but a true statement. Just realize you did not actually hurt your spouse and that means you should not create blame for yourself.