Can anyone give me guidance on this one? How to react, what (or what not) to say??

Me, to about-to-be WAW whom I suspect is in MLC: [timescale, approx 2 months post-bomb.]

"Look, this is your decision to end things. It's not what I want".

Her:

"No, YOU actually ended it by being so self absorbed over all those years" [etc etc].

This from someone whose last year's birthday card to me reads: For My beloved P, thanks for being you, and being mine, with all my love, M.

But now all my "self-absorbtion" and other supposed marriage-busting sins have been back-dated about 3-4 years.

I'm getting countless mixed messages like this.

Thoughts, anyone?

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