Sara trys to figure things out

[NNP1965]

Hi NM, thanks for the input. The porn is an issue because it is something he does that is secretive, after he has said he would not.

Several years ago, not long after we got internet access I found that he had been looking at porn and I asked him to please let's do that together to spice things up. He promised he would only look at it with me. However that has not been the case. He seldom brings up looking at something with me, and usually is not interested if I bring it up, but often does it when I am not around. and I am not talking about pretty pictures of nekkid girls.

I used to not think anything was wrong with it as long as both parties agreed, but now I realize that it really is addictive behavior and only benefits one group of people, that is the people making money off of it.

Porn can (and often does) interfere with relationships.

sorry I will get off my soap box now.

We have two boys 10 and 11. We do play games together (Thanksgiving we played Monolpoly). But we could do much more of that type of thing. Thanks for the suggestion.

yesterday for example the boys were playing outside most of the day, I was cleaning and cooking and doing laundry (and occasionally checking my computer) between watching football with H. H spent the entire day in the basement watching football, but also on his computer.

Then this morning he is stressing about all the things he needed to do that he did not get done this weekend