I think that you still being on the end of that rope might be *preventing* her from stepping back to see you.
I understand a long history, mine was 16 years.
Other DB'ers let me know if you think I'm off base when I say this: It will continue to SUCK until you CUT THE ROPE.
See, you're in this pattern. You're playing the bronc's game by the same old rules. She knows you're on the end of that rope. Anytime she wants you, she just yanks the rope!
So change the game. Drop the rope. It changes the dynamics of the relationship. It gives her time and room to think. She can feel the loss a bit more. You can recover and think. She might just be so curious about the change, that she stops bucking and walks up to you.
Yes, don't push her, but by hanging on to the rope, you limit how far away she can get from you. It's the old "if you love something, set it free".
Doesn't Michelle say in her books to evaluate if the techniques are working, and if they don't work, then change something and see what that does. Is holding on to the rope working for you?
I'm not trying to be a nag, but I know that detachment plays a huge part in Michelle's strategies, so I keep harping on it.
