What do I make of this???

[Just_Me]

Also, it's hard to have been able to hold her hug her and then have her lay with me and then go cold turkey because she has pulled back. Antoher thing is that I think that if she cared, she would be calling me...Am I wrong in this? I s inot time to call or is the non-calls and indication that she doesn't care?

Tman, too much focus on her still. You can get a life/have a life that doesn't involve filling that life with another person because you're lonely. Keep doing what you are doing with friends and exercise. Perhaps quit being so physical for awhile and quit being quite so available. She's allowing you to do those things, but I can tell you that I didn't make any headway at all until she got the sense I was letting go or had let go and quit hugging and being around. Tman, my XW didn't come back until I had reached the conclusion that we were done and had quit with the wondering when she would get off the snide and admit she cared.

Frank, you have put all your eggs into the basket that says "she loves me (I think) and will eventually come to her senses." That is a set-up for disappointment. It's better to be pleasantly surprised that she does come around than crushed that things are truly over. As for her feelings: From what you said I believe she does still have feelings for you. She might not think it's love and if those feelings do surface, I suspect that she squashes them. When she's distant it may be an active effort to make it clear to you that she doesn't love you. But should she work through her issues with OM and with herself, she may realize that she loved you all along. Just give it time. Don't call her and don't get upset when she doesn't call you. Mine didn't call me either. It doesn't mean it's hopeless, just that she's not ready.

Frank, the focus needs to still be on yourself. That means quit thinking about what aloofness and silence means. Quit being disappointed by lack of calls. You have a moment here when you can enjoy your singleness. Take advantage of it.

Me