Thanks for the reply. I agree with you. There is still some emotional stuff to go through about OM; but for her sake she seems to be working through that. THe reason I say this is that she called me about 3:25pm yesterday to tell me tha my daughter was definitely staying over her friends after the birthday party and that I just need to pick her up at the dance studio for 12....There was no real need for the call; because that is standard procedure on hte weekends I have the kids. During that convo, she also told me how he had called her back while she was driving home from dropping me off. She basically told him he was a user, etc. and didn't need to share this with me. Doesn't mean there will ever be an us; but hopefully a good step for her.
Well, I asked to talk to my stepson and she had to call his Dad back. She was still talking to his dad when my stepson and I had finished talking. So, I told him to have a good weekend and tell mom to have a good night for me.
Well, I was driving home and decided to drive down the old neighborhood street, since I pass it on my way home and it was a nice day. I drove down the end of the cul-de-sac to see if a friend of mine was home. He wasn't and so I started to drive back out. Then I saw a neighbor of mine who we are both friendly with. I stopped she gave me a big hug and we talked. She asked me how things were going, etc. The neigbor's daughter across the street was there too and she said that my stepson was staying over their house tonight. I said he is??? He has to go to his dads??? She then felt like she told me something I shouldn't know. She said that his dad had to wrok tonight so my stepson was able to stay over. Anyway, I told the girl that that was probably why his dad had called my X.
We were all talking and my X pulled up with the kids. So, I went over and jokingly said hey long time no see!!! She laughed and then we all talked a bit about stuff. My X tells the neighbor to watch out for that family she was involved with (good for her). Well, we all then head to the other neighbors house to see the finished addition they have.
On the way over the neighbor says "You guys should take the kids to dinner." I'm kind of apprehensive to do so; but I said "Hey, do you want to take the kids to dinner?" She says ok. SO we hang out a bit more and then I call ahead for a table. (While we were there, she also pulled aside the other neighbors who are very religious to talk to them. She tells me later that she wanted to let them know that she would love to havethem over to her house if they would come; but that they should not bring the couple that she was involved with OM. ANother positive for her.)
Well, we take our cars and the kids over to the restaurant and get seated. She jokingly tells me she needs a drink...So, both order one and then have dinner...They have tv's in each booth, so the kids are occupied and we just enjoy some adult conversation. (BTW, she didn't originally tell me; but this is a place that I frequent and know alot of the workers...so at first she was a little uncomfortable going there). It went well...we were there for about 2 hrs. Then we piggy backed the kids out to her car and buckled them in. I gave them a kiss and then said by to her, giving her a peck on the cheek and she said thanks and drove home.
Well, like you said I didn't initiate and I am sure that she is still going through alot of confusion; but hey it was an opportunity to be with the kids andto be around her to show her who I am.
BTW, I also had talked to her about my stepson and his workouts at the Y. Ended up that he would like a workout partner and she can't. So, I said what if I joined and did it with him. She was open to that.
Well, maybe I will get crushed, as she is not indicating one way or another; but the fact hat she went and had a good time was a plus.
