Quote: it always seemed to bother her to be called Frank's wife...I agree...She was not just Frank's wife...she was a person, separete from me...How do I let her know that I feel this way?
Tell her. You can say you heard someone say it and you wanted to tell her..."XW, you weren't just Frank's wife to me. I see you as more than that and your own person. Just wanted you to know that."
Quote: When I have the kids, she will be free and vice versa. So, how do you know whether to ask her to do things or not? The times she is free is when I havethe kids. :-(
So you've essentially always been asking her on real dates? What's wrong with making plans with the kids..say to see a movie or go to dinner..and asking her if she'd like to go along? Drop it casually, "wan't to come along?" I should clarify my sitch. Over 90% of the time I did something with my XW it also included her kids, my kids, or both sets. We hardly ever had a real date with just us two. Perhaps that is a limiting factor that you should consider.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
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