This move would put me closer to the kids and to my work; but I have never been good at changes like this. I fear having to make new acquaintances up here if I chose to go here...I just spent the past year making some new acquaintances down there. My X even made a comment Friday that I seem to be hanging around with alot of people.
You asked if I fear moving on from her? Maybe a bit; but I also know that there are other people out there that I am attractedto...they just won't be the mother of my kids and for me, that complicates things. In the end, that may be for the best; but I am afraid sometimes of that too.
As far as her reneging...Oh, I have seen that with my cousin, whose X said let's work it out and then at the dinner they were having with family changed her mind right there. My cousin has since remarried and my X actaully thought he was the nicest guy!!!.
I have the apartment; but feel like I will lose part of my freedom, as I will have my kids overnight every other weekend and that she will get more freedom and see other people around and since I am not there, not think of me in comparison.
Also, anther reason I would move this way is so that I can be naer my job and spend less on gas. I could meet my kids friends and their parents. I couldnot have to deal with the issue of having to drive a half hour on the weekends I have them to get them to their religious Education classes. It would avoid a stupid conflict between her and I that would not occur if we were together or were in the same town. My downside is that if she and I never got together and she moved on before I did, would I be able to deal with being in the same town??? I will never know that until it happens. Maybe it will make me stronger???
I guess I fear that if I come on too strong, it will be over; but if I sit back, she may not know how to approach me.
Well, that's my problem I guess. When I have the kids, she will be free and vice versa. So, how do you know whether to ask her to do things or not? The times she is free is when I havethe kids. :-(
One addtional thing that was always and issue for her is that I want her to know that I value that she is a person. I remember when we got married and moved to the area I grew up in...it always seemed to bother her to be called Frank's wife...I agree...She was not just Frank's wife...she was a person, separete from me...How do I let her know that I feel this way?
