Well, went over yesterday around 2:30pm to setup the network. Brought her a coffee and she thanked me.
When I go there I needed a few more things to steup the network and my stepson needed a battery for his digital camera. So, he and I headed off to find the battery. About 2 hours later we got back. No success on finding the battery. So, I started getting the stuff together for setting up the newtork and X-Box. A few minutes later she told me to tell the kids to come upstairs for dinner and that since I was there, I might as well have dinner too. She had a glass of wine for each of us. We all ate together, which was nice. When the kids were done, they got up and left. So, my X and I had some cake for desssertand just shot the breeze a bit.
After that I helped pick up the stuff on the table and proceeded to wash the dishes. She came over and helped dry them and put them away. The whole time, we shot the breeze about the old neighborhood and how people all talked behind everyones back. MOstly her saying this not me. Tlaked about a few other peoples failed relationships and she stated that she has distanced herself from the guy she was confused about and his wife. (I guess that is a positive!!)
Well, after that, I went back downstairs and setup the X-Box side of the network. My other son was playing on the computer, so she said each needed a shower. We took the youngest upstairs for his. We got him in the shower and let him play for a little bit while we watched the TV. Avbout 5 minutes passed and I asked her if he needed his hair washed. She said to go in and put some shampoo in his hand. We let him stay in there for a few more minutes and then she told m I could get him out and that the towels were in the closet. So, I got him dressed in his PJ's. (Now that was another first!!!...I had asked a few times before if I could give them there shower. In order to be around them a bit more and to help her...SHe always refused and said I can do it)
Well, she then said that she could take care of our other son while I worked on the computer. So, she did that and I went downstairs to work on the computer. Unfortunately, I was having some problems and it was getting later, about 8:30pm and I was supposed to go to my friends house to watch the football game at 9pm (1/2 hr drive) So, I came upstairs and told her that I was running into some problems and that I would need to come back. She told me that was fine. So, I told her I would do that either tonight or tomorrow. I also to her that if she couldn't find the CD for the router, that I would get another one and fix the computers next time.
As I was getting ready to go, I was putting my shoes on next to her on the couch and I thanked her for dinner and she said thanks for working on the computers, as I have no idea how to do that. (another first!!!)
Well, I had told her I would drop off her rented DVD to the store when I left and she said "Oh, you wanted to see the game. You won;t have time to drop it off." I told her I would do it and then head over to my friends. I said I will be back and as I said that someone walked in the back door and went downstairs...Probably her Dad. She rolled her eyes and said they just walk in anytime. (They live next door.)
Well, I left and went to friends house.
It felt good for us to work together. Everything went fine and from a DB perspective I felt good. However, I keep hearin those words she said the day before "We have 3 I mean 4 kids and I just want to find a way to get along." I wonder if that is all it is ever going to be or whether I see some kinks in the armor???? I know I need to take it slow and not push; but it is hard to know what and when to ask her about different things like giving the kids a shower, etc. I would like to do more of that; but I don't want to push her away. I just want the opportunity to do that wit hthe kids and to be around her to show her the changes. Yes, I know she sees things; but these are concrete actions. Well, anyone that has been there and has had it work or not have any opinions on this? I guess like I said before, that if she did not still have feelings for me, that she would have told me stop, take a hike or you shouldn't be here this long??? Well??? lol
As an addendum, I was comingto work around noon today and I passed her and waved from inside my car...No reaction form her. However, I have a new car that she is not used to seeing and sometimes she just is oblivious to things around her too. I just hope her dad or someone didn't start into her about me being there.
Well, wish me luck as I try and keep living my life; but also seeing if my old one can eventually become a new better one. I hope that I am not pipedreaming and that others have travelled the same path as I and had it go well.
