tmanboodi is actually 2 nicknames for 2 of my sons...T-man (Thomas - my stepson and my other son used to make a sound like boodi when he was little!!!)
To answer your questions:
We were married for 11yrs...Have known each other for 20yrs (dated way back off and on)
As far as what I am doing to care for myself.
I from day one of this asked her to go to counselling and when she didn't, I went and still do.
I have tried to improve myself by seeing the things that I was doing that were making me the person I didn't want to be. I have been working hard to get back to the person I used to be many years ago. The one who didn't let the little things bother him. I got to a point where I started disliking everything around me and nothing ever seemed good. Some of that was a result of her not supporting me sometimes; but I let life get to me and now I try and let stuff slide. I kind of ignore the stupid things I used to let get me angry. I wish I had realized this way back and maybe it would have made a difference. Who knows?
I also workout. I had gained some weight during marriage and felt like I was disappointing her. In the end it bothered me too. It is hard to do the workouts; but it feels good and I feel better about me. I used to be very thin like my X. Now I am in better shape and have a better attitude. Kind of stinks to think that all this will maybe be for someone else and not her.
Go to Church...pray alot (not just for me!!!)
BOught gifts for kids who didn't have as much.
In addition, I hang with friends who have always been there for me and I try and date every so often; but nothing that makes me feel like I want to move on.
