One of my other issues, is how will I know that she has given up this cheating man...I don't want to spy on her; but that is a significant factor in how long I am willing to give her an opportunity to fix things...

I am leaving the door open for her if she chooses; but also going out doing things...However, if she is unable to walk away from an adulterous relationship, then she is not for me...I don't believe that she is who she is guilty about being...she just needs to admit it to herself...

I am not saying if she stops dealingwith him, that it will be us together...Just that I will know I am back on an even playing field because she has given up something that is wrong...dating a married man...doing that will restore some faith I have in her and who she really is.

I want to feel better about my decision to leave the door ajar and that would be an indication that I am not looking for the wrong kind of woman...(Sure, it would also make me feel better about the person I thought I knew and married...I could see it as a MLC or mistake in a weak moment)