tman, what I have learned is you have to give her space and let her contact you. I call my wife maybe 1 or 2 times a week to say hi to the kids, she calls me 3 to 5 times aday. I no longer am trying to get her back, im just going to be her friend and hope for the best.

I can see cracks in her armor now, but those dont last long then she becomes that woman again. Im done worring about other guys. I know she has been with guys, i know she is not serious with anyone. I know that no one will ever take my place even if she gets married again, we were together for 21 years.

So if she comes back to me she does, I hope she does.

Give your wife sometime, I have been at this for 6 months now and I can see it going another year God I hope not