D18 is sabatoging DB'ing!!!!!

[trytoohard]

Wow, good to hear I'm not alone in this problem. The difference between our sitch's is that our daughter never felt like daddy's princess. She has always wanted that and my H seemed to come off most of the time as begrudging having to do things with the kids or dreading "having" to go to one of their activities. She talked to my H this weekend and got alot of this out in the open, told him she wanted to forgive him for all of the things that he has done to hurt her, even things he may not be aware of that hurt her unintentionally. My H is communicating with me so much better since our talk last week. I enjoy so much hearing from him (I am still DB'ing by A** off!) but I am letting him call me, giving him the space and time to process things his own way and backing off. That has made a huge difference in our R. We are leaving Wednesday for a big race in Oklahoma that will run over the holidays. I have invited him to go and watch S15 race. He told me after our D18's hissy fit this past Saturday that he was not going to join us as he did not want to make "anyone" uncomfortable or cause tension that would negatively impact our son who is competing. I told him that I wanted him to go and our S15 wanted him to go and that I did not want to give her that much power. He told me he would talk to her and take ownership for the hurts he has caused her and try to start mending their relationship! I am so happy for both him and our D, this has been a long time in coming. I'll post the results if she chooses to share them with me.