Lil, Oh...my...gracious. I can't believe you lanced it off yourself. I had two babies at home, with no pain meds, and the thought of that gives me the willies! You southern women are tough as nails, I suppose.
Snook, Thanks for the comments. My H is excellent at leaving work at work. That's why these last couple weeks have been so weird for me--he's so stressed out and wound up and that's not like him. It literally takes me all evening just to unwind him and then it's time for bed. His company is starting rounds of firing people and clamping down in an effort to go from a small family-run business to a large publicly held company. This is exactly what his last employer did and the outcome for him was not good. It must suck living in fear every single day of your life. I'm not sure what you know about American manufacturing but it is a sh*tty line of work to be in. The competition from China is so stiff that these companies wring every last bit of life out of their employees just trying to stay afloat. Ruthless people. My H is way out of his element amongst these sharks but it is his background and now is not a good time for a career change, with me at home and 3 little kids to support. Every day I look for a new job for him and wrack my brain trying to think of ways to make it better.
The music idea is a good one. MrH is not much of a music fan (I know, HOW is that possible) but he does listen to the Catholic radio station every day and that calms him down a lot.
Thanks for the info about what he is feeling as he drives home. I know it's hard on him. I probably have no idea the extent that it wears on him..and the pressure that he feels. I SO wish I could do something about this; I feel very helpless.
Well, not to get too graphic, but the thing was tiny-- and it took VERY little to make it go away, believe me, I'm not into pain. Let's just say a "teeny prick" (two words NO ONE likes to see together ) and a small amount of pressure and it was all gone. To hear my bf talk about it, you would have thought it was a fully formed appendage...
Wow, the work sit for Mr HP is really sh*tty. I had no idea. I hope that he is able to make it through and doesn't become a victim. I do remember little bits and pieces about the last employer and a similar transition earlier this year.
I don't know much at all about the manufacturing line of work but with thoese kind of conditions, I really feel for him. Day to day or even weekly challenges are one thing, his situation is something else all together. There's no way of totally shaking that off and then show up at home a "Happy Camper". I don't think any amount of beach music will wash all of that away.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
"And wrinkles only go where the smiles have been." J. Buffett
Sorry that your H is facing this (and you) and I know it really sucks around this time of year when you already have holiday stress.
My H also works in manufacturing. And 5 years ago there was jobs every where now they are cutting and closing everything. My H company runs a shift of 8-10 people where there should be at least 15. The fact it is a chemical plant one wrong mistake can take out half the town and the potential liability of that does not even stop the cut downs in employee's only the profit margin does. Sorta crazy.
Hope your H makes it through the cuts. And you both manage to deal with the stress and have a good holiday season.
Quote: That was at least 10 months ago. I told him it was gone right after I did it--- I implied it disappeared by itself, as cysts sometimes do-- and he has yet to see or feel for himself that it's gone.
He hasn't felt down there for 10 months? Sheesh...for some reason I thought it wasn't quite that bad.
This may seem minor to some, but H gave me a long passionate kiss while I was laying on my D's bed and 2 outta 3 were hanging on me. He initiated it, he kept it going, he was clearly into it. Prior to that kiss, he had tried, twice, to give me a compliment about sexy legs or somethin. He never got it out because both times the kids interrupted us, the little heathens. Anyway, I guess he was sick of trying to talk and being overrode so he just went in for the kill and figured they couldn't talk over a kiss. He was right!
I paid him lots of compliments and I am so proud of him. He is changing every week it seems.
Last Friday he came home from work and gave me a big hug. Then he interrupted the hug to tell me, "I think we have something special between us that other couples don't have--at least the couples I know personally." I knew what he meant..people our age are so detached from each other and either into decorating their homes or shuttling their kids to and fro. Which are both things we do, too, but our priority (I'm glad to finally say:) is each other and our family. There is a lack of physical affection and goodwill to each other and plenty of sarcasm and poking fun humor. Both of which we also used to have.
One more thing: I noticed this weekend that I absolutely bristle when H calls my girls names. I'm sure it has to do with the FOO stuff that Lillie's thread brought to the surface of my mind. I am always telling him to use their given names and not give in to his temper and resort to a derogatory name. His FOO was one where the father was violent and critical and impossible to please. He has eliminated the violence and criticism part, but when he is utterly frustrated with the girls, it comes out as name calling. Which, ding ding, happens to be one of MY hot buttons. Isn't it weird how these things work. Anyway, no "boneheads" or the like in my house, thankyouverymuch.
Ah, but I digress. The reason I posted was to point out how wonderful he is doing and how happy I am, thinking about his arrival tonight.
The bumpectomy went well. Poor H's head is cut open like a melon, with no stitches, but he's very strong and manly about the whole thing, of course.
It is a boring week here, with a sick husband and sick kids.
At least I have hairdog to say gut-bustingly funny things and keep my morning interesting. And blackfoot and stigmata's conversation is quite engrossing as well, but I'm not sure what's so bad about being a taurus.
I've got a long day ahead of me, what with wiping noses and finishing up a Christmas project for my supremely ungrateful MIL, so I will sign off and say Have a good one, everybody!
You have a great one too Honeypot!! Sounds like you have a busy day ahead....I'd send you some of my homemmade Irish Cream to put in your coffee, but I don't think Fedex does same day service
My best to your manly H for speedy heeling. Hope he's up for more passionate kissing.
My H has been more complementary lately too. I've been sick and said something about draggin @ss, H said, "and a very nice @ss too." All while preparing dinner with kids everywhere and all. Ahhhhhhhhhh - felt good.
Hope your family has a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Karen
PS Too bad about MIL - I have an issue with ungrateful folks!
Just chiming in to say that my life is going grandly. I mean really and truly splendiferously. I could not ask for more. My H is a changed man and I'm a changed gal. The whole process feels complete.
Over the last few weeks, he has turned into a regular ol' HD guy. The things he is doing have not been done in our home since we were newlyweds. A couple of times I even felt overwhelmed by the intensity of his desire!! Who knew. Well, I believe NOPkins knew but damned if I was going to believe him. lol I simply can't believe the difference in our lives from a mere 3 years ago.
We are now looking at buying a new home and H has a job interview tomorrow. Things are looking up, indeed. We have HOPE. One can live without a lot of things but hope is not one of them. It was killing me and killing our R to have lost hope.
Anyway, I'm rambling but I just wanted to check in and say that things are good in honeyland.
I know this is not as gripping a read as my former HoneypotTrainWrecks but what can I say. I know that you people love me enough to be silently wishing me well instead of racing to reply to the latest wreckage.
This place is a fountain of knowledge and provocative thoughts and I feel so blessed to know all of you.
) and a small amount of pressure and it was all gone. To hear my bf talk about it, you would have thought it was a fully formed appendage... 
