Oh one more thing. Last week I was having a desirability crisis. What I realized was that I had cut down on my OWN contributions towards being sexy by a ton--my motivation just fizzled, I guess, when it wasn't going over like I had hoped. When I realized that, a good deal of my resentment lifted and I was able to see that I need to kick it up a notch.
I really related to these comments. When I get down about the M or the resentments flare up, I sometimes notice I also slack off on my own attempts at desirability. For instance, not wearing sexy clothes or not doing my makeup. I call it my frumpy mode. Hate it, because I always feel worse about myself when I am like that. Oh, not getting to the gym is another one that makes me feel less desirable to. So I think there are many things we can do OURSELVES to feel sexy/attractive/desirable that have nothing to do with our S. I think Lil had a new thread related to this topic too. May jump over there now. Have a great weekend (with more hot sex of course)!
