Dont talk about them. Dont ask him if he would like it. He might not know or not want to admit it. you most likely did that because of your missing confidance.
Test em out. They are coming from you. You put in the effort to learn/ be reminded of them.
I dont go up to women and ask them 'would you like me to be confidant, or should I kiss your feet, fetch your bags, run your errands'? I dont say 'What are you having for dinner', or even 'Would you like me to order your dinner', I just do it.
Oh you are sooooooo right. That is why I got so pissed off when I read the article. Cause I knew, deep down, that I'd have to fight through all my own insecurities and do this stuff. So I took it out on him. Hey, I might have a tendency to fly off the handle but make no mistake--I know exactly why I'm doing it.
Why am I insecure? Well part of it is just my natural personality--I am confident but not 100% sure of myself. Part of it is that I've tried stuff in the past that was met with utter rudeness--him pretending that he didn't notice. It was humiliating. I am obviously not over it.
The only way to GET over it is to replace those sh*tty memories with good ones.
I'm working on it and, as a matter of fact, have on sexy underwear that I plan on showing off when he gets home. I've had them for a year and he's only seen them in the laundry, not because I didn't want to show him. He *finally* expressed interest in them last night. He told me two years ago (oh why do women have such good memories) that he didn't like lingerie and sexy thong underwear was the same as white cotton panties to him. He said it so many times, and so convincingly, that I eventually believed him. Now he tells me that's not true. I had a hard time believing it to begin with and now I've got to un-believe it all! This guy keeps me going in circles but I guess that is part of his appeal. I am never bored with him. Something new every day, in some aspect of our lives.
Thanks for the bulloney calling. I've been waiting.
