I'm not worrying about your potential for self sabotage or anything else right now - I'm all stuck on the belt thing. I know - I'm not thinkin with the right part of my anatomy. Whatever it started out as the part I'm impressed with is that your H didn't run scared when he realized where your thoughts were headed, he didn't get weird. Major accomplishment.
My preference is to have it removed no matter what the cost, but my H is a man through and through. He will not shell out the do re mi for the surgery. His plan is to wait until he gets a better job, with better benefits that will pay for it.
It's no secret to me why SD chose the lifestyle she did. Men are dolts sometimes.
P.S. I did some research on it and am trying to get him to at least try some pain management treatments, such as shooting it with steroids, etc. Less expensive and I don't want him to live with pain every day of his life.
Right there with ya. H had to have a cracked tooth removed a few months ago. It is time now to have the implant done. It will be a few thousand dollars. H is now rationalizing why he should put it off rather than spend the money. It is on the side in the upper jaw so nobody can see it and it doesn't impact his chewing but still... He would never put this off if it were me or the kids.
Ladies, I have managed to get the surgeon's phone number from H and will call today and inquire about treatments and/or payment methods.
And men worldwide wonder how they turned into henpecked little boys whose wives mother them! Duh! Cause they don't have sense to take the most basic care of themselves. Sheesh.
As I have learned the hard way over the years, I pretty much let my H take care of himself and do not get involved beyond the basic care and concern and making suggestions/offering to help any way I can. I refuse to do any insisting that he care for himself.
anyhoo, I hope that I'm able to work something out with the surgeon's office. Hate to see him in pain. It was hell getting him into the doctor just to check what it WAS (a benign cyst) and now that it's hurting, I can't imagine how long it'll be before we're done with it.
Hi Honeypot Just wanted to say congrats on the progress you are making with H. I must say, now that the SL with my own H is starting to get back on track, I really look to your posts for inspiration and admire your commitment. You're somewhat of a role model No pressure though
Oh girl, just do like every other sensible person does and emulate MrsNOP.
I am a model for "What Not to Do."
If you google my threads, there is a disclaimer to not try this at home.
I'm tellin ya, it is only due to the good personality of my H that we've come this far. I seriously did everything wrong and he kept on plugging. If you think I'm exaggerating, ask Corri. More than a few times she told me to take a chill pill and I couldn't seem to do it.
Actually, I think that my body is going through another hormonal change which is allowing me to feel calmer and more in control of the Gotta Have Its. My hair was falling out rapidly this summer and now it's growing back in and I feel yet another change in my personality and moods, so I'm sure my hormones are doing something weird again. Not to mention my HAIR! Oy. I mentioned it in conversation to GGB once, that my hormones may be returning to normal b/c my hair's grown in about an inch (and fringes around my face) and he replied that that was good, as he's heard the Lion look is in this year.
Anyway, I think this physiological change has had good timing as things seem to be working out. Any bit of patience and calming down physically helps me tremendously. I've never been a moody person but I've always kindof been on high speed, physically speaking.
Honeypot, Don't underestimate yourself. You've clearly done plenty right. And yes, of course, I have high respect for MrsNop, but you seem to be so similar to me in many ways. Two HD women who can't help but drive their H's batty with our sex issues Drove my H so batty he left Not that I am taking the blame but I know I had a role. And just like your H, my H is now plugging away too. so there is hope. Sorry about your hair. What's with all the Lion references Glad you are feeling calmer. May need to take a chill pill myself
Well, I'm not the prettiest lion you've ever seen, but I look better like this than I did during my Balding Phase. Good grief, that was unsettling. My hair is still super thin (in the same spots that a man's is...ewwwww!) but the lion fringes will fill it all out soon enough, I'm sure.
P.S. I know what you mean about relating to another HDW. It is quite a unique, trippy place to be in, to want more sex than your man.
No pressure though 
Not that I am taking the blame but I know I had a role. And just like your H, my H is now plugging away too. so there is hope.