Wow - did I need that. I need to know that there is a light. I also need to see a stich where the spouse isn't running around, addicted to strip clubs or porn, physically ill or sexually dysfunctional, gay or mentally ill etc.... Just someone who takes their spouse for granted.
What a really cool thought. If I could think of H in that way instead of hunting in the bushes for zebras I might make some more headway. I just get so down in the dumps that my head goes in all these ridiculous directions e.g. maybe he's still hung up on someone from the past, maybe he's sorry he married me, maybe he is involved with someone etc... I am currently in one of those downward spirals again.
HP - you and H deserve to have a wonderful R. You have worked hard on it in your way and so has he. Good job. Please stick around and dispense advice even if you and H continue to live in relative nirvana. You have a great perspective and with your success, so much to offer.
