And putting things that way you get to say that you were working hard to get results, but didnt see the results you needed to see, without actually saying he didnt try.
That's where she's in stalemate. If she doesn't tell him she needs him to work on things, not asking for what she wants, it won't go anywhere. If she does tell him what she needs from him, he's going to refute it, deny it, and turn it around on her.
