He says "If we're doing the family picture, do you still need tights for D2?" I say "Yes, b/c after the family picture, I want to change their clothes and get a holiday picture as well." He says "So, you're just going to disregard everything we've talked about and do your own thing anyway?"
We get back to the boys section again and H takes her. He's still looking at clothes and all of a sudden, he throws down the clothes he has and says "That's it, we're leaving."
I say "H I have to get D2's tights before we go".
I was in the children's dept at Sears when he calls my phone. He says "I'm leaving. If you want a ride, come on." I said "H, it will only take me a few mintues to get these tights, that is the reason we *came* to the mall today". He says "NO, it isn't the reason we came to the mall."
I said "I don't know why you're pulling this now, their pictures are at 11am tomorrow, just let me get the tightsand we can go."... I was just floored at the way H left me behind and ignored me when I said 'Let me take the coats' and threw my jacket at me....I just kept thinking 'how did this become my fault?'
Heather, I'm thinking that since he saw your wish for a holiday shot as "you doing your own thing", which we know is anathema to him, and since you wanted to get tights for your daughter for the purpose of that picture, when it got close to the point in your shopping where looking for those tights was about to come up, that's when he acted on his stuff.
Additionally, see how he rebuffs your reasoning that purchasing the tights was part of why you went to the mall.
He just wasn't gonna let you go buy tights, so he sabotaged the whole thing, control freak that he is, by trying to get you out of the store by threatening to leave. When you didn't kowtow, he probably felt he had no choice but to leave or lose face.
And I'll betcha that answers why he pulled what he pulled when he did, and why he sees it as your fault.
