Now He's still looking at clothes and all of a sudden, he throws down the clothes he has and says "That's it, we're leaving."
Yup, everything was festering inside him, which he permitted to fester inside him, which he kept seeing as how he's the victim in all of it, which angered him, and this is how he chose to act on that.
He grabs all of the coats and is still holding D2 and holding S5's hand and starts heading for the escalator, D2 crying very loudly still. H practically falls down the escalator with D2 in his arms and S5 holding his hand, no joke. I about had a heart attack and said "H, let me take the coats!" He did not even acknowledge that I was speaking. He walks out of the mall... He says "I don't need any help from *you*" or something like that and throws my coat at my feet.
You're dealing with a very inconsiderate, rude, selfish, disrespectful, temperamental, immature man, a man who does not care how his actions affect his loved ones nor cares about displaying his temper and its consequences for all to see, and I know you know that.
On my worst day, it was the day that K had the movers over and everything of hers was on the truck, except for a couple of small boxes, and it was only minutes before she was to leave forever, and I broke down in anger and hurt which had been pent up for weeks while she was packing, which I had not been showing her, and threw a box outside, but not at her.
Throughout my relationship with her, however, pre knowledge of her EA/PA, I never threw anything. I never stormed out on her. I could never let her struggle with bags, always would take the heavier load, the most bags. I used to joke about how I'm the "mule". One just doesn't act like that with their loved ones. It's incomprehensible to me. Sure there were times I'd get irritated or irked and either I'd try to let it slide and joke about it, but still willingly go along with it, or try to "fix" things by offering solutions, but never be defiant and so mean. I can't relate to your H.
He says "NO, it isn't the reason we came to the mall."
Right... so what? A reason to be at the mall was added. If you take his argument to its logical conclusion, you didn't go to the mall for the kids to poop there, either. What a flimsy excuse he makes to justify himself, as if his actions could really be justified.
He said... "you left *yourself* at the mall."
He starts trying to tell me "my mistake"
Shifting the blame to you; seeing himself as the "victim" and faultless, is his standard course. He doesn't take responsibility.
he called me back a little later and said "Ok, I'm calm now. Would you like me to come back and get you?"
You don't even get a real apology, huh? And asking if you want him to come fetch you instead of stepping up to the plate and telling you he'll come get you... what a guy. Got a strong hunch he'll blame you... that since you said "no, I've made other plans and my brother's coming to get me", you're gonna hear how it was H offered but it was YOU who turned him down or some such BS argument, when the matter is really about how he should not have behaved that temperamental way and should not have run off intentionally leaving you behind.
