the reason he doesn't inquire after you is because he believes you're capable of handling things just fine. And that if you weren't, you'd say something about it.

You're probably right. For your own furture reference though, if I say something about it, it sounds like I'm complaining. If he asks, then he's generally interested, in which case we're sharing. Does that make sense? So don't wait for your SO to say something about it....ask, care.

If you had a tendency in the past to not be able to handle things when a child was sick, or some other issue was arising, he probably would ask how you're doing more.

It was more bothersome last time S5 was sick that H didn't ask about me than this time b/c I have a tendency to get sick every time the kids do and I was coming down with it last time. He never showed much, if any, concern for that. This time S5 has an ear infection, so it's not likely that I'm going to get that.

How's S5 doing on his medication? How are you holding up? Are they managing to get by at work without you or are things going to be piled up and waiting when you get back?

Why, Bud, you're so perceptive about what I need to hear S5 is sleeping on the couch, which is really good for him, it's a good deep sleep. I'd love to go and get D2 from daycare but I don't want to wake him up! He'll get his third dose of antibiotics tonight and will hopefully be well enough to go to school tomorrow....and I'll be able to return to work where they probably won't recognize me, lol. Really, I've been doing a fair amount of work from home, so it's not too bad, I'm just not as efficient. There really isn't anything anyone can do to help me out, I'm pretty independent in my position.

Thanks for asking Bud!!

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