{{{Heather}}} It's hard to be a fixer and be where you are. Hard to know there's a better way to live and not have a partner that's willing to work for that. Right now your H's focus seems to be on punishing you. Unless he moves past that, there's not much to be done except live your own life is there?
I'd say your right on the money. The best thing might just be to focus on you and living your life until the solution becomes more clear or workable. It's hard to do that. I'm struggling myself. Maybe if we apply ourselves to that goal and fix life for ourselves, some of the obstacles to our happiness will fall away as a result. I mean, if your H wants to make this as hard as possible on you, there's nothing you can do to change that. The best you can do is help yourself to find happiness whatever he throws your way, and hopefully become strong enough to withstand whatever the future holds.
I'm so sorry you've come to this place Heather. Live a good day today for YOU and your babies! H will be there to worry about when you can deal with it again.
