I'm a dunce. I never seem to notice when someone's thread locks up. I was talking with BurgBud tonight. When he brought me up to date on your sitch I realized you must be on a new thread.
Good luck on your mission. I hope this will be the thing that opens H's eyes to what he's throwing away.
(K climbs up on his soapbox.)
Quote: It's hard to explain. He put his foot under my head and kept bouncing my head~that kind of thing. He got down on the bed and just stared at me. He turned the TV on really loud. Then he tried to carry me out. It was humiliating
It's not hard to explain. There's even a word specifically for it. "Abuse." It might be hard to accept, but that's the truth. The "no kissing" shtick is abuse, too. You deserve better. (K steps off the soapbox.)
I read "After the Affair" and STBXW wouldn't. She read DR only up to the chapter on infidelity. Both try to explain how the betrayed partner feels. Each recommends forgiveness. H must forgive you, and you must forgive yourself, if your M will ever be a real, loving M. You can't make him forgive, but will you forgive yourself, whether he wants you to or not?
I hope your Thanksgiving was good. Thanks for posting kind words on my thread again.
Oh, yeah, before I forget. Written anything poetic lately?
Thanks,
K
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