Quote: I would be interested to hear of any other suggestions that may be helpful for a LD/ED male or things that others have tried to turn on their LD male.
My husband has had a few problems with ED. He is only 40 and the times have been very few. But what I never took into account is that just those few times could have freaked him out so much that it effected him a great deal. It is the fear now of that happening again. Now add to the mix he knows that I am unhappy with the frequency.
One thing I was thinking about this weekend was that I can't really ever think of a time that I have initiated that he has ever refused to ML. I think for me now it is I want so badly to feel wanted and desired. I want him to pursue me. That is has built up SO darn much resentment in me. I want a chance to feel like a woman again. Instead of feeling like the man and woman of the relationship. I know my resentment is not helping this marriage at all. In fact it is tearing us apart. It is something I am striving daily on. it takes a big person to do this I think. Because it sure is hard when I know he has faults he has to work on himself. But yet it feels I am doing all the work. So instead of focusing on all the negatives I try to look for even the smallest positive. Like Saturday for instance I came home from work and my husband was willing to get up from watching his football game and cook me something.
But my husband to me is very LD. So Saturday night we got into bed and I reachjed over and just started caressing him. It did lead to us ML. You could tell instantly it helped us to create a different kind of bond. A much closer and loving bond. There was lots of kisses yesterday and just helping each other out around the house. We even snuggled for awhile.
It did lead to us ML. 
You could tell instantly it helped us to create a different kind of bond. A much closer and loving bond. There was lots of kisses yesterday and just helping each other out around the house. We even snuggled for awhile. 