I struggle with this very thing! My h has left and has outright told me he wants to be with someone else. And after reading through a lot of these threads, I find that my marriage was really pretty good. So, do I take the stance that it's temporary insanity? I don't know. So many people have asked me if I would take him back. What are they seeing/assuming that I'm not? I think you do need to ask yourself what changes you would have to see in your WAW (oops, friend). I think for everyone the answer to that is different. How long has this A been going on? My h's has been long term but has only been exposed for 2 1/2 months. I think the exposure time makes a difference.(?) I don't know...maybe when you get to the end of your rope take a deep breath and then add another month on to your tolerance deadline. I wish I knew. Hang in there. Spitfire23
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
