I am just no longer willing to compromise my values or lower my standards for myself in order to achieve it. I view this as a test for myself.
I feel empathy for you Michael. I have struggled with the question of being a man of my word and staying w/my W in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health (whether that sickness was physical or emotional) and not enabling her affair, by not letting go and letting her experience the consequences of her actions, by protecting D's from WAW's selfishness.
I've recently come to the decision that for Christmas this year, my last "gift" to my W will be to grant the D that she wants. The oddest gift I ever gave to her. I'm dropping the rope, and letting go. Her A is not my problem anymore, it never really was, I just thought it was.
In the end, you have to be the guy who looks in the mirror every morning and be satisfied with what your seeing.
