Not sure how many have read my story but in short....My wife wanted a divorce 4 months ago wasnt "in love with me" was ?ing our marriage ever being good, you know the story. Since then ive used this site and another plus books (Divorce Remody being one) to save our marriage. The last month in particular has been great, lots of sex, I love yous and overeall everything seems to be pretty good. Shes even called me a couple of times just to say I love you and this last weekend we went and got her a new SUV (witch shes needed for a while) and went to her dad/stepmoms house for the weekend. I havent allways gotten along real well with the stepmom and its seems when we go theres allways some tention but in councelling this week she said I was awsome and there was NO tention, everything went great. She also said she was real worried it wouldnt. Heres the problem im having: For the first time in a month or so we went to councelling together on Tuesday night, we've been going to the same councellor one on one lately but because of the kids we havent been able to go together. She said some things that concern me and mabye its just her trying to put me in check or sorta control the situation as its mabye moving too fast for her? I dont know but my wife lives totally on emotions all the time. She said she feels shes still puting up a wall and doesnt know how to fully let herself go, that she loves me but is wondering how to get the chemistry back and again shes affraid i'll go back to being the old me. Shes been having some bad dreams about me and also her ex stepdad who peeped on her and did some real inapropriate things. He had two personalities and since ive made so many changes I guess its confusing her and shes sorta worried i'll go back to the old me, the councellor agreed with this when I said it on Tuesday night. She allso said she still feels a bit tense around me and doesnt know why, this used to be a big issue with us. She said her mom and a couple others have told her to just let go for once and start living in the present and future, just enjoy what youve got and how good things are in your life and marriage. My wife said she wants to but its not that simple, shes allways held on to things espessially the negatives. We had been going every week but the councellor asked would we feel comfortable at this point coming just every other week? I said it was ok with me. Wife paused and councellor asked her again she said "yeah thats fine with me, guess I just need to take things one day at a time, divore isnt something to just into right not". WHAT!!!! We havent spoke of divorce in at least 2 months! This is something I just cant get, i dont know why the heck shed say that and its ohneslty really bothering me. For the first time in a month or so im starting to ? things a bit and im really worried it'll show. Im allso concerned since I did do so much to save our marriage like changing, compromising my feelings, and sorta just being real passive to get things back on track, mabye shes lost some respect for me? Mabye its time I started being a bit more assertive again and not such a nice guy or so willing to please? Oh and shes on the rag and was a total you know what this morning so I just told her to stop being so uptight and quit complaining about everything and left to take my son to school. After I put him in the truck I decided to come back in and say goodbye have a nice day (she was in the bathroom and couldnt see me) and she said it back and started appologysing but I ran out like I didnt hear her, i really didnt want to here it at the time. She called me a little while ago to appologyse and said she realizes what a b@#$h she was being, I said no problem gotta go see ya later. Really need some advice here, or input on what she may be feeling at this point. This is the first sorta setback in our reconiliation so far and im real botherd and not sure how to act. MY STORY
