Quote: Let her suffer the consequences of her own choices. She went to sleep on the couch after rejecting you, she can remain there until she awakens. I am not talking revenge. I am talking about you stopping the doting.
Your right on target here, this is a reaction (doting) that I must eliminate. I should have left her there and gone off to bed myself. That would have been the catalyst to addressing her rejection. What would have been her reaction? I don't know. What's she going to do? "Cut me off"? lol.
Quote: Non-reciprocated caring will leave you being the only one that gives a rip about the relationship, and even worse, it alleviates any discomfort for the non-reciprocating spouse.
I see your point, plainly here. As long as I continue to overly doting, she never get pushed out of her comfort zone and the issue doesn't get addressed. It just gets sympathically 'swept under the rug' with no consequences.
Snook.
"And wrinkles only go where the smiles have been." J. Buffett
