Quote: Nops suggestion are the correct necessary way for her to come to understand this is how it is, a logical acceptance and understanding, and a long- term solution for true harmony.
Mine is to intersperse it with fun, and make it easier to get there.
Mine causes a reaction, every man wants to be able to 'make' his wife 'want him'. Nops causes her to realize this is a choice and removes the uncertainty of reactivity.
Thanks for the explaination and I can see your point more clearly. In the case of a male thats behaving sheepishly, there is absolutely no element of attraction. There is no confidance, strength or any pure "male-ness" about him. Which flip-flops the whole M-F dynamic. What female is going to get revved up by a male acting lke that.
I understand the things that you and NOP have shared with me are not "exclusive". Your suggestions, center more on the having fun with it, the "unpredictable mystery man" stuff, while NOP's suggestions are more direct and "matter of fact". This is not to say the the NOP's don't have fun with their interactions, thay have already shared some of those.
Quote: Both take a certain amount of courage,(creating confidance) and a detachment from what the outcome may be.
I like that one. I need to internalize it. "Water off a ducks back"...Success lies in the response.
Thanks Blackie,
Snook.
"And wrinkles only go where the smiles have been." J. Buffett
