the playfullness, joking inuendos are all fun and great for lightening the mood while keeping the topic of sex menatally present. However I think that there is a threshold that is too much or over the top. Which would have a negative effect at the present time. I agree with this Snook. Not only for your W (she may be drained by the constant sexual innuendos) but also for you, me, any HD. I find that when H did this in the past with no follow through it was teasing, and quite frustrating really. All talk no action. BUT, I will say that it is "healthier" for the R to have the sexual banter than none at all. We eventually got to the place where the banter, the hugs, the handholding, the spooning, all that fun stuff was gone. That's the true danger zone, total lack of any connection whatsoever.
