being non reactive is very attractive. Very It may attractive as the HD (me) but not when the LD ( my H) does it. When he is non-reactive to me, I'm annoyed/hurt/depressed. Thankfully, he has not been like this lately but the long history of it is so painful and close to my heart. I guess you are saying if S is non-reactive to me, Snook, whoever, we should not act like we are offended etc. ??? Ok, but that doesn't change the fact that we ARE having those feelings. It hurts to be rejected. Period. And it does major damage to the R/M. Why don't LD's see this???!!!!
