ALthough they are helpful, sometimes I still have a hard time trying to cipher some of your messages. I'm still having a hard time with this one.
Quote: When the opposite gender spouse is not 'filling there role' often times the role is tried to be filled by the wrong spouse, in a effort to demonstrate what they would like to receive.
But I think that I understand this one.
Quote: LD's actually require much more assertiveness, and ability to lead then HDW. If you do the steps correctly they are also much more likely to follow along.
In a more evenly 'balanced' R, not too dissproportionate (HD/LD) relationship, or when both are making efforts to meet the others need(s). Although either side of the scale may contain different "stuff", they have similar mass. Thus the dynamic is 'balanced' with a specific overall weight.
However, with really LD's the scales are never really 'balanced', so the other spouse needs to over compensate a bit (assertiveness) making up that difference so that the overall weight/mass is the same and things can get going. Bad analogy, I know, but I hope you can see my point.
Blackie, I understand the overall picture. I need to change the dynamic, and from what you and the others here have mentioned. Is that more assertiveness, weather it be 'insistantly playfull' or 'seriously direct' is a better approach than the present. That this should change the dynamic and in all likelyhood be seen as more attractive.
An passive man is not an attractive one.
I'll keep up with more direct adult humour and weigh the results. If null, then it's "Sledge-O-Matic" time.
Thanks BF. Wishing you well and hope you have a great holiday.
Snook.
"And wrinkles only go where the smiles have been." J. Buffett
