Mars/Venus - Here's my story

[snookchaser]

Arghh. and right after you said carpe diem. you didnt carpe diem.

Alright, yes I'm getting this through my thick noggin'. carpe diem, carpe deim. What's latin for night? I might need to use that that mantra too.

...take a moment just stare and judge.
Is it token resistance, playful flirting, 'testing' your determination, or actual rejection. If it is the first, ignore and plow ahead...

Thanks for that reminder. This is an area that I usually seem to have difficulties at. It is been very hard to muster up the courage to make the approach, because of those lingering fears of rejection. Sometimes the signals/body language are obvious.

If I get one of these I know to back off
If I get one of these I know its safe to proceed.

However, its that grey area in between where I tend to stumble. And that's why your "testing my determination" quote is so helpful. So, next time I'll have more fun with it and be a little more playfull. Then I'll look a little more deeply into those eyes of hers and judge.

I see you having a outcome in mind instead of just leting things happen. I know when things gets messed up for a bit it can be hard to find the flow. Try to let go of the destination, and have fun watching the scenery (flirting, teasing) go by. Look her in the eye. Know that she wants you.

This one was especially helpful. It can be applied in many ways. Most important to me, was not having an intended outcome. Just let go and follow the flow. You right though, its been hard to find the flow after a hiatus. At times I feel like a young highschool boy all over again. Stumbling and Fumbling a bit. But I'm putting that behind me now and I'm getting there. The hardest thing I've come to understand and learned from during this past year is overcoming the rejection induced "resentment". Those are wasted energies that should be should be inverted and applied in a positive way.

Confidance = Attractiveness.

Thanks again BF