Yes you are right he has not said that he won't gamble, my annoyance is that h is not honest about it. But then I wonder if he see's it as dishonest? I don't think so. Itis like me going shopping and not telling him I have bought a new top. He could argue that I am not being honest there so I have kind of relaxed a little about him omitting to tell me things.
The problem is when he says he will give me money at the w/e for example..when the weekend arives he says i will give it to you wednesday...when Wednesday arrives he says, Oh I haven't had time to go to the bank I'll let you have it friday... and so on. All the time he knew he didn't have it - he knew h'd spent it! If he just said to me sorry I don't have it till next month, that would not be a problem. Do you see what I am getting at? I have explained that to him though now.
So, we had another chat last night I told him my liking him is not dependant on him stopping gambling. It is up to him. There is lots of info about this disease and if he gets to a point where he feels he needs help then I am there for him and will help him all I can.
In the meantime all I can do is protect my own finances and become more independant in that regard.
I think he is starting to see a softer, more approachable side to me. Whilst talking last night he confessed that he didn't even realise that I worried about him. He's said a lot of things like that of late. Our deteriorating relationship must have affected more that it appeared.
Anyway that was him on the phone just asking if he should come round this evening and cook dinner for me so that will be a real treat as he is a very good cook
