Hiya pink - I hear you on the deception thing. However, lately I've been coming round to the idea that it may not be necessary for partners to tell each other everything.
It is his money, he has worked for it...he admitted that he had gambled and got himself into some debt that he was working to clear. He was very angry and upset at being forced to'confess'
I cannot recall, had he promised you voluntarily that he would not gamble? Here's my take on this. There is my stuff, there is his stuff, and there is stuff we promise each other. The first two, we tell each other if we want to. The last stuff, we have to tell each other.
Is it possible that he feels hemmed in because he has to be accountable to you for what he thinks is his stuff?
