So, I confronted H about the gambling. Initially he lied and that was a huge disapointment. Some time later he admitted that he had gambled and got himself into some debt that he was working to clear. He was very angry and upset at being forced to'confess'. He still hasn't told me the whole story though ....
On a plus side I think it was reasuring for him to tell me stuff and not get a negative reaction. (i.e. I was understanding)
On a negative side it is not good when people bully information out of you and that is effectively what I did.
On reflection it is not the gambling that bothers me. It is his money, he has worked for it...what bothers me is the deception. I have given this some serious thought and realised that the reason I am so anti lies and feel so anxious and uptight when people behave in an untypical way is largely down to my own difficulties in childhood. It doesn't feel right to log them here but just wanted to mention that to remind me should I look back on this. I'll know what I mean
Our R continues to be fun around these stressful times, we have had another good weekend together.
