H continues to be distant. Often saying he feels tired. Not as happy or 'fun' that of recent weeks, Something is wrong. I have a strong suspision that he has been gambling and that he has spent money that he shouldn't have. ( In fact it's not a suspision I have proof. He has and keeps promising me money that he does not have. I'm not sure what to do...confront him or just let it go for him to sort out. It is not life and death for me. I can mannage without the money what is a problem for me is the lies that go with his gambling! I feel so disapointed. I know he is lying to protect me and probably because he feels embarrassed but it doesn't make it any easier to take. I suppose I have answered my own question here. By confronting him I am setting him up to lie. I know he won't admit he has a gambling problem. My aim now is to arm myself with as much information about gambling adictions as is humanly possble so that; should the time comes he admits he has a problem I am able to help. This goes against all of my 'fixer' desires and is a 180 from how I would normally react in this situation. I am also trying to keep upbeat and possitive but with his downcast mood and the fact of knowing what I know it's not easy.

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