My question was to understand you and what makes someone a good friend to you...what you look for in them to help you that helps you through life the best way possible. I have my own views and when someone disagrees, I have a natural curiousity to understand where they're coming from because I want to learn...to understand all viewpoints and see if by chance I might need to modify my definitions cause I hadn't considered everything.
I apologize if you thought I was defending or being sarcastic, I was just giving my take on things...people around here can defend themselves well enough...no need for me to chime in unless I have a thought that I feel might clarify better.
As far as the pub and him cancelling on you, have you had a heart to heart with him about it? Meaning, the next time he suggests he wants to come over for dinner you take that as an opportunity to say "H, if we're going to make plans we're going to stick to them no matter what. So, if you can't commit to plans, then that's fine also...we can try doing it where you just call when you have time and if I have time then great come on over...otherwise the kids and I are gonna go about business. I can't keep getting their hopes up only to have them disappointed and then extra effort to make them feel better." Then you go about your GAL efforts. You find ways to alleviate your exhaustion without counting on him. But that's just my two cents.
Nickel
"The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy."
